Perspective: Self Care

Not to long ago, I watched Frankie & Alice. It was not at all what I expected, mainly because I never even heard about it. Thanks to Netflix, I was immediately touched by the hold the dissociative personality disorder – left untreated until an adult incident forced the hand – had on Frankie, her family and her relationships. They all knew she “had issues” but never supported her into or through the right treatment. Frankie was traumatized by a series of childhood events, many of which revolved around her role during a time when “segregation was the rule.” It changed her and “messed her up.” Like many of us then and most certainly now. Rachel Dolezal and her family have been dealing some form of personality disorder for years and would significantly benefit from treatment, which I hope is what comes of this for her and her family.

Let me further contribute to the post racial soup and affirm that Rachel’s passing game was on fleek. And like Frankie, all things come crashing down. Frankie spent the remainder of her life learning how to manage her personalities and the consequences of her behaviors that spanned a lifetime, as will Rachel. Is it in that spirit I offer the perspective of a progressive conversation related to childhood trauma, race & identity and how that will come out in some form during adulthood. My hope here is that we accept her limitations as de facto and investigate the life pressures resulting from that “normal.” Many of us manage variations of stress and trauma from “every day life” that manifest in ourselves and/or others, often daily. There’s so much going on in the world and our lives we leave little, if any, for self. Rachel is reminding us to check in – if you’re not whole, the movement will not be either.